10 October 2010

pain. a blessing?

I wanted to share this devotion from Priscilla Shirer. Just a great truth to pass along. Soak it up!


The Blessing of Pain

The Blessing of Pain

We rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope. -Romans 5:3-4 (ESV)

A jovial rosy-cheeked young girl bounded across the set of a widely popular television talk show to make her way to the couch next to her parents. I had seen the whole thing from the beginning. The proud mother and father had already been there for quite a while talking with the host about their precious little girl. Their description of her sounded much like those of all adoring parents who want nothing more than the best for their children. Yet, their stories of normal childhood activities were peppered with eerie tales of a disorder that had ravaged their youngster since her birth.

Hers is a rare disease. One might not even know it existed without hearing it discussed, but it couldn’t be missed as soon as the girl stepped from behind the curtain and into public view. Her chubby smiling face seemed a bit weathered. There were some bruises and scars that told a story of their own. Her right eye was patched and bandaged to cover the gashes and discoloration, and her toothless grin was molded into the expression that accompanies the elderly who have lost their teeth. I felt my blood pressure rise as she walked across the stage. I’m sure that anyone watching did. How could this much damage be done to a child. Certainly the disorder I heard the parents explain wasn’t the cause of all this.

My heart ached and pulse raced as I folded a pile full of clean laundry during the commercial break. My body was busy but my mind had slowed. I was consumed with thoughts and questions, eager to have each one of them answered. My internal conversation was interrupted when the commercial telling me I’d used the wrong detergent ended and the talk show began again. I sat down on the edge of my bed, my husband’s crumpled t-shirt in hand, and listened. The parents explained. Soon after their daughter’s birth, it was discovered that she had a rare disorder that would keep her from feeling any pain. A scraped knee on the playground or burnt tongue on a cup of hot soup would go unnoticed by her nerves, deadened, and unresponsive. At first the news stunned her parents, but they soon settled into a nest of peace at the thought of having to never worry about their child enduring physical agony. The mother described how she initially felt blessed that this phenomenon could be their lot. Yet, her enthusiasm soon turned to despair as the months of her little girl’s life crept on.

First, some hot coffee spilled, burning her three-month-old baby soft skin as it leaked steadily from a coffee table from which she could not get out from under. She didn’t cry for help because she didn’t feel anything. Now her flesh was scalded. When she discovered the fun of using her own hands, she began to pry at her eyes, freeing the one on the right from its socket. When her teeth came in, she began to unknowingly bite through her own lips and tongue, leaving her parents no other option than to have all of her teeth removed. Since there is no pain, there is no threshold that cannot be crossed; no boundary that cannot be broken, and no need to request the assistance of someone who can offer the help needed to stay safe. Tears streamed down this loving mother’s face as she stroked her daughters blond hair. How she longed that her life could include the blessing of pain.

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Job hated it and David despised it. Abraham could have done without it, and Job certainly would have appreciated the steady happiness he’d always had instead of experience it. And you and I—we couldn’t agree more. We don’t like pain.

From the beginning of time until now the discomfort that accompanies the meeting of our bodies or souls with a substance that causes it hurt is avoided at all cost. Except for the occasional exercise poster exclaiming “No Pain, No Gain,” the vast majority of our thinking is trained to steer clear of anything that will cause us soreness. Pain is the enemy and we wonder why any parent would want the child that they love to experience it. Wouldn’t life be better without it?


Maybe Hannah has the answer, her soul ripped and torn under the weight of a barren womb and the torturous constant taunting of her rival.

. . . she was greatly distressed and prayed to the Lord. . .-1 Samuel 1:10

Or possibly Job, his heart frayed at the loss of his family and livelihood, and his body sore from top to bottom with oozing boils.

. . . I had heard of Him, but now my eyes have seen Him . . .-Job 42:5

Could David’s poetic heart song in the face of insurmountably painful odds give us a hint at the blessing of pain . . .

. . .I would have despaired unless I believed . . .-Psalm 27:13

Jeremiah, weeping and wailing, his heart and soul in deep anguish at the thought of the destruction of his beloved people and nation called

out …

. . . there is a balm in Gilead . . .-Jeremiah 8:22

Stephen, his body snapping like a twig under the weight of the boulders being sent crashing down on his limbs cried out in agony. . .

. . .I see the heavens opened and the Son of Man standing. . .-Acts 7:55

And of course there’s Paul and Silas, shackled to the walls of a rusty Roman jail, backs freshly bruised from the beating, and the skin on their ankles blackened from tightly strung chains. . .

. . .about midnight [they] were praying and singing hymns of praise . . .-Acts 16:25

Possibly the message is just as clear; the mystery as easily unravel when no words are spoken. She never spoke; the woman, embarrassed and humiliated, having been caught by the Pharisees in the very act of adultery. She just looked into the soft, caring eyes of the One who didn’t throw a stone (but had every right to) and heard,

. . .just go and sin no more . . .John 8:11

She said nothing; she just sat in the fresh wound caused by humiliation of the worst kind, listened, and left His presence brand new.

Mysteriously, there seems to be a blessing in pain. It causes us to check the barometer of our activities and clearly see the reality of our circumstances. It forces us to see who we trust in to rescue us. Pain is. . .well. . .painful, but ironically it is the gift that keeps us from further discomfort. When we feel it, it becomes a teacher pointing us to the only correct Answer there is. And so, our Father, like any loving parent, desires for us the blessing of pain to keep us, comfort us, humble us, teach us, and drive us back to Him in deep need of the great love from the One who loves unconditionally and can rescue.

It will be a sign and a witness to the Lord of hosts in the land of Egypt. When they cry the Lord because of oppressors, he will send them a savior and defender, and deliver them. –Isaiah 19:20 (ESV).

When disasters strike, famine or catastrophe, crop failure or disease, locust or beetle, or when an enemy attacks their defenses—calamity of any sort—any prayer that’s prayed from anyone at all among your people Israel, their hearts penetrated by disaster, hands and arms thrown out for help to this Temple, listen from your home in heaven, forgive and reward us: reward each life and circumstance. For you know each life from the inside, (you’re the only one with such inside knowledge!), So they’ll live before you in lifelong reverence and believing obedience on this land you gave our ancestors. --2 Chronicles 6:28-21 (The Message).

06 October 2010

bondage, forgiveness, freedom

The American flag stands for freedom. It is a symbol of what men and women have fought for and came out victorious.
We fight for our governing freedoms, but do we carry that over into our christian lives? Are we willing to fight for freedom in the spiritual sense?
The kind of freedom I am referring to is the kind of freedom that you give to someone by releasing them from bondage. What do I mean? To put it simply, when a brother or sister in the Lord seeks forgiveness and we do not offer that forgiveness we keep them in bondage instead of offering them freedom. Why not release them from that bondage and set them free?
I have found that people in the church can be the most unforgiving and judgmental of all people.
Why is that?
People who do not even claim Christ will offer forgiveness faster than anyone else.
Why is that?
I have so much admiration for my brothers and sisters who can come to a place of offering forgiveness to someone who maybe killed their child in a drunk driving collision. Was it simple for them? No! It was something they wrestled with and fought for, but in the end, did what they were called to do- forgive.
We are quick to offer forgiveness for little things but when it comes to bigger things.....we hold on to those. We look down our nose at others when it comes to the "big" things. Who are we to decide what is big and what is small? We are commanded in ALL things to forgive.
How about breaking the bondage you have someone held in?
How about offering freedom to them?
How about forgiving them?
What has been your experience in this area? Feel free to respond anonymously.

21 September 2010

kentuckians vs. david copperfield














Ahhh. I can already feel the ocean breeze and the smell of the salt water. I am a sucker for the beach. Any beach, any where. So, when my mom offered to take me on a cruise again, she didn't have to twist my arm! However, this cruise will be a little different. This will be my 8th (or 9th?) cruise, but all of them have been in the Caribbean. This one will take me on new adventures to new places. It is a New England/Canada cruise. I cannot wait to experience the rocky beaches of those areas (and maybe catch a sight of a whale!).
Here is the itinerary:
Thursday/Friday: Boston, Mass (Doing some historical sightseeing.)
Saturday: Cruising
Sunday: Portland, Maine
Monday: Bar Harbor, Maine
Tuesday: Saint John, Canada
Wednesday: At Sea
Thursday: Halifax, Nova Scotia
Friday: At Sea
Saturday: Fly home
The last time I went on a cruise with my mom was to the Panama Canal. Brad was at home with the girls, trying his best to navigate the estrogen-filled home all on his own. This time should prove to be equally challenging! The girls are already freaking out about how their clothes are going to get washed (I know, they should know how to do it themselves...that's for another blog). I told them to look at it this way, they will get to eat out every night and probably get a new wardrobe out of it! haha!
Hopefully, though, Brad won't feel the need to go to such extremes to make me feel guilty as the last time. You need to read this post
"Two Very Different Weeks" to fully understand. Here is the short version. Brad concocted this whole scheme just to make me feel sorry for him and the girls. I mean, he went all out! He even included the entire state of Kentucky. He and all of Kentucky got together and made up this whole "ice storm" event. They pulled off what David Copperfield could only dream about. You should have seen it. In the middle of winter they turned on their water hoses, sprayed their trees and let them freeze just so they would crack and knock down power lines! They even took all kinds of pictures. I still have no idea how they made all that snow, now that was impressive. They passed around emails about needing to borrow generators and spend the night at places that had heat. Man! Even the schools were in on it! They let the kids out of school for the entire time I was gone!
You know, they almost had me fooled. Until my plane landed in Lexington and it was 60 degrees outside and not a drop of snow.......

18 September 2010

inquiring minds want to know

For the past couple of years my biological clock has been ticking. I think it has something to do with a certain age that is drawing closer and closer (gasp!). I mean, if I could have one more snuggley little one, I better do it soon. I certainly don't want my child pushing my oxygen tank around at their graduation!Since moving back to Springfield, I have been spending time with the most perfect little two year old (since mine were that age, of course!). She is an absolute angel. I love her so much. Some days Eden and I get to play but it never seems long enough. I have just enough time to give in to her every little heart's desire (hey, chocolate is a legitimate meal!). Recently, I was asked if I wanted to keep her for a day while her mommy was at work. Well, OF COURSE Auntie A (which is so adorable when she says it!) will keep her. Here is a little sample of our day:Arriving at Auntie A's house, there are always two immediate stops. First is the M&M stash (which she thinks we manufacture them!) and the next is the cabinet. She marches over to it, opens it up and begins her search (while eating her M&M's). She picks out what she wants. Next, she always wants to find Rosie, the cat (or "wosie", as she calls her).This particular day, she wanted to eat beside kitty (yes, on the floor, but that's okay, she is at Auntie A's house!). Then there is play time. We go look for the birds, jump on the trampoline, play doll house, chase the kitty, have a dance party....did I mention I still have dishes to do and laundry to finish? No time for that, it's lunch time. After lunch I can get those dishes done and the laundry going again. What's that? "Pay wif me, Auntie A", well OF COURSE! So it's off to the park we go:First stop, feed the ducks. Do you know how long it takes a 2 year old to go through a loaf of bread? Forever! I guess I just forgot. After running from the mob of ducks, who apparently called all their buddies in from out of town, we made it to the swings. Did I mention it feels like 110 degrees outside?
Lucky for Eden, she gets a breeze while swinging. Whew. I am getting a little tired. I have had a two year old before, three times to be exact, but for some reason it seems more tiring today. Hmmm. Maybe I am out of practice. Did I mention how much this child loves to swing?
Sweat is rolling down my back. I think I feel faint. Push the toddler faster, it creates a breeze. Water. I need water. "Eden, you ready to go back to Auntie A's house?" A "yes" never sounded so beautiful...what's that? Oh...you want to see the duck's one more time? How could I possibly say no?
Finally! On our way home! Wait!! No...no...no.....is she falling asleep? Actual conversation between me and the Lord: "Please, please Lord, let her go back to sleep once we get home." Back at home she is awake and I talk her into laying in the bed beside me. After rubbing her back and singing "Do You Know the Muffin Man" (for the 100th time...but that's okay; it's our special song), she finally goes to sleep (thank you Lord!!). Just when I think I am about to take a nice little slumber, I am reminded that I haven't spent a minute with the Lord that day. Seriously? OK, that conversation between the Lord and I...rats!...He answered that prayer, but I should have added, "and let me take a nap too!". As the little angel lay sleeping, I get out my Bible and pick back up what I have been studying lately (how the impossible with man is possible with God). The particular passage I am reading is about the account of Abraham and Sarah. They are told they will be with child. You know the story, Sarah laughs. Well, I ponder that. After the day I have just spent with the most perfect two year old on earth, I am totally exhausted. My biological clock suddenly comes to a halt. What in the world was I thinking? Really? Another baby? I am too out of practice. This pace is too much. Let's just leave it to the younger ones! I suddenly laugh myself, because I am thinking that Sarah is cracking up because she has spent days with two year olds herself and just can't imagine how she could do it. Haha! Oh, but the impossible with man is possible with God. So, I posted this scripture to my Facebook page:

Gen. 18:13 The Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh and say, ‘Shall I indeed bear a child, now that I am old?’ 14 Is anything too hard for the Lord? At the appointed time I will return to you, about this time next year, and Sarah shall have a son.”

Man! I wasn't thinking about what a stir it would cause! Everyone thought I was sending out a "message." Well, you know me. I love to cut up and have a good time. So....I decided to play around with it and just let people's minds run wild! And, boy, did they! So, to answer your curious minds, No, I am not pregnant. For now, I will happily be the mom to the three beautiful girls God gave to me. How thankful I am for Abbie-Kate, Chloe-Beth, and Gracie-Caroline. And, I will still have a wonderful time simply being Auntie A to my sweet Eden!